Presence is essentially the ability to focus on, and live in, your immediate experience. Your here and now. This is no small task when all we can do is think about the past, the future, or what we’d rather be doing. Fortunately, we can train … [Read more...]

Last week we touched briefly on how ruminating over the past or future might play a role in feelings of depression and anxiety. How I personally have found focusing on the “here and now” to help with breaking my own tendency to live in the past … [Read more...]

Thoughts about the past and future, especially when inaccurately fondly or pessimistically, might serve to distort both our expectations and perceived reality. This, in turn, might drive negative thoughts and emotions. I heard once that … [Read more...]

When you start exploring your expectations, you’ll notice a couple of things. You’ll notice that you don’t care about many of the things others do. Maybe that’s money, power, popularity, social status, or hedonistic pleasures. That you do … [Read more...]

What’s at the source of your discontentedness? That feeling of dissatisfaction with your life? Disappointment? Unhappiness? Often it’s because of a mismatch between your expectations and your reality. There’s something that you think … [Read more...]

Materials degrade. Relationships fade. Goals come and go. Achievements last only moments. The work. The pursuit. The challenge. These always remain. These are where your attention is best directed. Nothing outside of you … [Read more...]

It’s Monday. There’s a good chance you’re getting ready to head to work. You might be stoked about that. You might not be. If you’re in the latter category, headed to work might be a real freaking drag. This is particularly the case if … [Read more...]

Sometimes, despite our best efforts, the shiznit keeps piling on. And there’s nothing we can do about it. That’s just a fact of life. So. What do you do when there’s nothing you can do? When things are happening that you cannot … [Read more...]

Have you ever set out to make an improvement but not known where to start? You want to lose weight, but have never really paid attention to your eating habits. You want to get stronger, but know nothing about lifting weights. You want to … [Read more...]

Have you ever put off taking action because you were waiting for things to be perfect? So many of us do. We don’t try a new dietary strategy until we know that it’s exactly what will work. We don’t implement a new training routine unless we … [Read more...]