Have you ever lacked confidence?
When there’s something you’ve wanted to do.
Something you’ve wanted to work toward.
That you felt you were called to do.
Yet you couldn’t bring yourself to give it a shot.
You didn’t think you could do it.
You’d never done it before.
You didn’t know how to start.
You didn’t know what would happen if you failed.
So you just didn’t even try.
In times like this, we’re often told to “be confident”.
Or to “find confidence”.
Or to even “fake it” till we “make it”.
Advice like this assumes confidence is something that can just be “done”.
Something that can be created out of thin air.
As is if it’s a choice.
The truth is, it’s not.
We can’t just create confidence.
We can’t trick ourselves into believing when, deep down, we’re not sure.
When we do this, we can make matters worse.
We can drive deeper our feelings of insecurity.
Feeling even less confidence.
Consider a different approach.
Don’t seek confidence where there is none.
You might display falsely to others.
But not to yourself.
You’ll know you don’t have it.
Seek courage, not confidence.
Action in the face of fear.
In the face of uncertainty.
That action is how you build true confidence.
Acknowledge that you’re not sure.
Acknowledge that you might fail.
Accept these truths.
The truth that you might not have what it takes.
But you can try.
You can act courageously.
Taking the risk.
Putting yourself out there.
And if you do fail.
If you don’t have what it takes.
You can try again.
You can learn.
You can grow.
You can become stronger.
There, you’ll find greater confidence than you could ever fake.
If you’re not confident, that’s totally fine.
It only means you’ve got some work to do.
Put in the work.
Build that confidence.
Starting with courage.
You’re up to the task.
You’ve got this.