Progress, growth, and working toward a goal calls for us to change our habits.
We build new habits.
We let go of old ones.
This applies to any area of life that we might want to change.
We might want to lose some extra fat or build some muscle.
Spend less money on stuff that we ultimately don’t need.
Drink less alcohol.
Building habits is one thing.
Letting go of old habits, though, is another.
Often the first strategy many of us try is just quit.
We swear off whatever it is that’s holding us back.
We make a rule.
No more ice cream.
No more spending money on Amazon.
No more beer.
We “can’t” do these things any longer.
Or so we tell ourselves.
But we still get that urge.
That evening sweet tooth.
That notification of a price change.
That stressful day that just begs for a bourbon barrel stout.
Before we know it, we’re headed to the freezer.
Tapping on that app icon.
Popping open a bomber.
Even though we told ourselves we wouldn’t.
We made the rule.
And now we’re breaking it.
What if there’s a better approach than making rules?
What if there’s a more effective option than white-knuckling your way through not doing something you want to do?
What if there’s a better way than telling yourself you “can’t” do something you obviously “can”?
Don’t keep the ice cream in the house.
Remove the app from your phone.
Stop adding beer to your cellar.
You can still eat ice cream.
Or shop online.
You don’t have to “quit” or tell yourself you “can’t”.
Just make it more difficult.
None of these are off limits.
They’re just not convenient anymore.
They’re not worth driving to the store.
Going to get your laptop.
Heading to the bottle shop.
There’s friction now.
Space to breath.
To remember your goals.
To find something else to satisfy whatever urge you’re feeling.
Isn’t space better than rules?
Create that space.
You’ve got this.