Some folks say progress toward a goal depends on willpower.
Others completely disregard willpower as a factor.
No matter what you call it, at some point you’ve probably wanted one thing for one reason and something else for another reason.
And you “knew” one was the “better” choice.
Yet it was still a hard freaking situation.
Despite our best intentions, it seems so hard to choose the “right” decision.
We want the cupcake.
We want to feel awesome.
We want to go to happy hour.
We want to build strength and confidence at the gym.
We want to buy this “thing”.
We want to achieve financial security.
Yet we still struggle.
All of these wants are just so real.
So what do we do in these situations?
Do we simply avoid temptation all the time?
Beat ourselves up for these very human wants and desires?
Punish ourselves for making the “wrong” choice?
You know these aren’t sustainable strategies.
Consider instead asking yourself one question.
“Do I want this more than that?”
Eating this cupcake more than feeling awesome?
Happy hour more than building strength and confidence at the gym?
Buying this “thing” more than financial security?
Asking such simple questions might be more powerful than you’d expect.
We acknowledge that we do want what’s tempting us.
We then redirect our attention to something we want more.
Thus, making our decision just a bit less challenging.
I want this cupcake.
But not as much as I want to feel awesome.
I want to go to happy hour.
But not as much as I want to build strength and confidence at the gym.
I want to buy the “thing”.
But not as much as I want financial security.
It may still take time.
It may still take practice.
You may still choose the thing you’ll wish later that you hadn’t.
But if you put in the work.
If you pick yourself up when you fall.
You’ll get there.
You’ve got this.