Have you ever heard that you shouldn’t compare yourself to others?
What if this isn’t *quite* the right advice?
It’s true that comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy.
We see others’ results, yet when we emulate their path and do not see the same outcomes, we feel like there’s something wrong with us.
We ate the same way.
We followed the same training program.
We implemented the same recovery strategy.
We did everything exactly the same.
Yet we didn’t see the same results.
So there must be something wrong with us.
Common advice would be to just not compare ourselves to others.
Taking such a route, however, doesn’t account for the benefits that come along with comparison.
How are we to grow if we do not look to others for examples of what’s possible?
How are we to close the delta between where we are and where we want to be if we don’t look to others to see what steps might get us there?
How are we to see just how freaking much we’re capable of if we don’t see what others achieve?
None of this would be possible if we never compared ourselves to others.
Comparison isn’t binary.
We do not need to choose between setting others’ lives as a hard standard for our own or just not considering others’ lives at all.
You don’t have to choose between feeling inadequate and settling for whatever comes your way.
There’s a middle ground.
Looking to others’ progress can serve as inspiration.
An example of what’s possible.
Be cautious, however, not to compare your Chapter 1 to another’s Chapter 20.
You’ve got different stories.
Write your own story the best you can.
One page at a time.
Your story might turn out differently.
That’s great, actually.
Your story is valuable in its own way.
Your story will inspire others in its own way.
Live it the best you can.
It’s the only one you’ll ever live.
You’re going to do great.