Setbacks and failures can be so disappointing.
We get excited about something.
A new job.
A dietary strategy.
A training routine.
We get our hopes up.
We pursue this new interest.
For some reason, it ends up not being right.
Things go south.
Maybe we don’t enjoy it as much as we thought we would.
Perhaps we don’t see the outcome we were hoping for.
Whatever the reason, even the best of plans often fall short.
Sometimes it’s our fault.
Sometimes it’s not.
The point is that we can never predict what opportunities will or will not pan out.
It’s tempting to beat ourselves up for this.
To blame ourselves.
If not for directly causing the disappointment, then for getting our hopes up.
As if we’re stupid or naive for even thinking that we’d succeed.
This can compound when others are aware.
When we’ve declared our plans.
When our hopes are public.
And then they fall short.
It can be embarrassing.
How we feel in situations such as this is totally up to us.
We choose how we handle our disappointments.
We can even choose not to be disappointed at all.
We can see these situations as steps on a path.
Searching for what opportunities will work.
Weeding out those that won’t.
Because that’s how life is.
Not everything will work out.
You won’t succeed every time.
You will try things that aren’t right.
Every failure is a step closer to success.
Every “not this” is a step closer to “this”.
Keep putting in the work.
Keep moving forward.
Keep showing up.
You’ll find what works.
It may take some time.
It may change as you learn about yourself.
But you’ll find it.
You’ve got this.