What’s at the source of your discontentedness?
That feeling of dissatisfaction with your life?
Often it’s because of a mismatch between your expectations and your reality.
There’s something that you think or feel should be the case but isn’t.
You should weigh a certain amount.
Squat a certain number of plates.
Earn a certain salary.
Drive a sick-ass car.
Have a big house.
Find a romantic partner.
But you don’t.
And you beat yourself up for it.
What do we do in situations such as these?
When our reality doesn’t match our expectations?
Sometimes we simply accept our circumstances and do nothing.
Resign to feelings of inadequacy or helplessness.
Sometimes we focus on working as hard as we can to close that mismatch.
We diet harder.
We do whatever it is that we think that we have to do, but harder.
Whether it’s working or not.
Whether we’re satisfied or not.
There’s merit to these approaches in some contexts.
Surrendering to reality has its place.
As does tenaciously pursuing our goals.
There’s a third option, however, that is often overlooked.
When your reality doesn’t align with your expectations, explore your expectations.
Why do they matter to you?
What value do they provide?
Are they actually yours or are they someone else’s?
The only expectations worth pursuing are those that align with your authentic self.
Expectations are fine.
They provide direction.
A metric for how you’re living.
They serve as beacons for your pursuit of your best life.
Yet a life spent pursuing anything but the worthiest expectations would truly be a tragedy.
Consider the root of your expectations.
Explore if they truly are yours and helping you to be the person you know you can be.
You are worthy of living up to your own expectations.
Of letting go of expectations that aren’t serving you.
Living your life on your terms.
You are worthy.
You’ve got this.