There’s a stigma about boundaries.
Saying that you just don’t eat or drink certain things.
Committing, no matter what, to a training routine.
Establishing a firm sleep ritual that you never skip.
Deciding that there are people you won’t see.
Resolving that there are places that you won’t go.
Often, such patterns are discouraged.
Instead, we should be open to everything in moderation.
To living a little.
To treating ourselves.
To going with the flow.
Such advice is given repeatedly.
Now, some of us do well without hard boundaries.
We’re able to move toward our goals without any kind of hard rules.
We’re able to eat “just one”.
We’re able to miss “just this workout”.
We’re able to watch “one more episode”.
We’re able to see that person “just once more”.
Others of us don’t do so well with this approach.
We do better with black and white rules.
Things we do.
Things we don’t do.
We may be the minority.
We may be outliers.
But we exist.
And we love our boundaries.
If you’re one of us, you’re not alone.
Don’t beat yourself up for taking an approach different from the norm.
If you’re not one of us, you might consider if boundaries might help.
Where do you lose control?
Where do you struggle with consistency?
What if you put your foot down and established some boundaries?
It doesn’t make you broken.
It doesn’t make you weak.
It makes you aware of where you need some help.
It’s okay to set boundaries.
To draw a line in the sand.
To say, “I won’t do that”.
It might not be easy.
You might be criticized.
There might be consequences.
It’s your life, though.
You determine the terms on which you live it.
If you live it driven by self-love, you’ll be alright.
It may take some time.
But you’ll be alright.
You’ve got this.