We can put so much pressure on ourselves when contemplating change.
The idea of upending our routine carries so much weight.
We think that anything we have to do must last forever.
That whatever we do is irreversible.
That the decision cannot be undone.
This feeling is often more intense when giving something up.
Cutting down on an eating habit that isn’t working for us.
Paring back our purchases.
Dialing back a vice.
Minimizing activities that we feel aren’t in alignment with long-term goal is tough.
We want to do something.
But we tell ourselves, “no”.
That one little word.
But so powerful.
We’re saying “no” to something we enjoy.
Something we perhaps even consider a part of our identity.
Something that we think others expect of us.
We all struggle with saying, “no”.
What if you stopped telling yourself, “no”?
What if, instead, you said, “not now”?
Allow yourself to experiment.
To try a different approach
To see if something works.
To learn if a goal is worth the sacrifice.
Remove the permanence.
You might find life is absolutely miserable.
That it’s not worth it.
You might find that life is awesome.
That you’re totally fine with the change you’ve made.
That’s okay, too.
You might find that you don’t need to totally quit the thing, but only dial it back a bit.
You might need to take some time to figure this out.
You might be unsure for a while.
That’s all fine, too.
You don’t need to know that right now.
You can’t know that right now.
Don’t force yourself to act like you do.
Make things a bit easier for yourself.
Don’t commit to forever.
Commit to right now.
That’s all you can do.
You’ve got this.