So often we get in our own way of success.
We eat to distract ourselves from emotions.
We procrastinate to avoid discomfort.
We react to life’s circumstances.
We second-guess ourselves.
We tell ourselves that we’re not good enough.
We’ll never succeed.
We might as well quit.
It often seems that we’re powerless to our thoughts and feelings.
If we’re even aware enough to recognize that they’re a factor.
The truth is we’re not powerless.
You are not powerless.
There’s a skill you can use to help take back control from thoughts and emotions that aren’t serving you.
Notice and name.
Bring awareness to your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations.
Acknowledge them, and that they’re separate from you, without judgement.
“There’s a craving.”
Then choose to respond, not react.
Consistent meditation will help tremendously in cultivating the mindfulness required for this level of self-awareness.
Apps like “Calm” or “Headspace” can help you learn how to do this consistently.
Understand also that this process will necessitate self-forgiveness.
There will be times when you’ll notice what you’re experiencing and still act in ways that aren’t serving you.
In some ways, this can be more frustrating than when you don’t realize it at all.
You will do this.
Don’t beat yourself up.
Get started with noticing.
Then, as you become more familiar with your tendencies, name them,
You will soon see that you are not powerless to your urges and impulses.
This won’t be an easy process.
This won’t happen overnight.
This will be frustrating.
Keep showing up.
Keep putting in the work.
You are worth the effort.
You’ve got this.