We don’t live in isolation, completely separate from others.
It’s not in our nature.
We each belong to various communities.
Playing our roles in greater societies.
We form countless relationships with others.
Some of these relationships are quite meaningful.
Coworkers, friends, and family.
The people with whom we interact day to day.
They largely shape our life experience.
Yet we’re similarly impacted by more distant relationships.
Businesses, organizations, and governments that shape our world.
It’s not hard to recognize the roles that other people play in our lives.
We’re interdependent with innumerable others, most of whom we’ll never meet.
Yet, at times, we let others play too large a role in our lives.
We might think that if they act or live a certain way, our lives will be better.
Or that if we act or live a certain way, their opinion will make our lives better.
That there’s something they can do to make us happy.
Or something they’re not doing that’s keeping us unhappy.
We end up seeking their validation.
Seeking their approval.
Expecting to find, with it, happiness.
This is a failing strategy.
We cannot look to others for something over which only we have control.
Your family won’t make you happy.
Your friends won’t make you happy.
Your coworkers won’t make you happy.
The government won’t make you happy.
They all may help shape your circumstances.
What you do with those circumstances is up to you.
Only you can make you happy.
Start with yourself.
Get to know yourself.
Seek your own validation.
Your own approval.
Your own forgiveness.
Your own love.
It’s not easy.
It’s not quick.
It is worth it.
You are worth it.
You’ve got this.