Sometimes we can be our own toughest critics.
Any time we do something that we wish we hadn’t.
Even after the fact.
We can be so hard on ourselves.
The negative self-talk.
These thoughts can come automatically, as if hardwired into our psyche.
Yet would we ever respond this way to somebody else?
To a friend?
A family member?
Even a stranger?
Of course not.
Nothing good comes of such a response.
Yet we do it to ourselves.
Of course, we might think that this kind of response might encourage us to change.
To “do better”.
But does it?
More often, it just digs us into a deeper ditch.
If this sounds like you, know that continuing to beat yourself up isn’t your only option.
Neither is simple “doing better”.
You don’t even have to change anything about what you “do”.
You make a mistake.
Miss the mark.
You could beat yourself up.
Put yourself down.
Drive home your shortcomings.
Or you could rescue yourself.
Pull yourself up.
Build upon what you’ve learned.
Which path moves you toward a most excellent life?
Helps shape you into the person you want to be?
Shape your life into the one you want to live?
This seemingly simple change in perspective is not easy to put into practice.
Especially after years of being your own toughest critic.
It will take time.
It will not happen overnight.
It won’t be easy.
But it is a worthy effort.
Easy and worthy are not one in the same.
You are capable of so much more than easy.
Even if the only thing you can do at first is be aware.
Simply acknowledge your tendency to be so hard on yourself.
That awareness is a massive step.
Put in the work.
You are worthy.
You’ve got this.