Feeling out of control is frustrating, especially when it comes to self-control.
We want to act in one way.
We also want to act in another way.
For one reason or another, we understand that one of those actions will serve us better in the long run.
It will be more aligned with what we’ve determined to be a worth goal.
The other path usually appeals more to our immediate desire for pleasure.
Or pain avoidance.
It’s what we “want” to do, even if we “know” we’d benefit from not doing it.
But we still do it.
Sometimes more often than others.
Some situations are more of a struggle than others.
But we still struggle with self-control.
Not doing things that we’d promised ourselves we’d do.
Doing things that we’d promised ourselves we wouldn’t.
And it’s so freaking discouraging.
Why can’t we just do what we set out to do?
Why can’t we control ourselves?
The thing is, self-control doesn’t always come easily.
It’s not something that we can just “do”.
Yet we act like it is.
What if you accepted that self-control can be challenging?
Accepted that there’s a learning curve?
Like building a muscle.
Or learning any other skill.
You’ll make decisions that you’ll wish you hadn’t.
Do things that don’t seem logical.
Take steps backward.
You’ll feel frustrated.
Be easy on yourself.
Self-control is learned.
It requires practice.
It takes failure.
Struggling with self-control doesn’t make you weak.
It doesn’t make a failure.
It makes you human.
Accept that you are not perfect.
That you are always a work in progress.
You always have been.
You always will be.
The only thing you can control is how you pick yourself back up.
How you dust yourself off.
How you put in the work.
When things are tough.
You will struggle with self-control.
That’s all you can do.
It will get easier.
You’re worth the effort.
You’ve got this.