We can be so hard on ourselves.
We beat ourselves up when our lives don’t look how we expect them to.
We have an idea in our head of how things should be.
How we should act.
What we should accomplish.
Who we should be.
Then, when things don’t pan out, we feel like failures.
We feel less than.
We feel unworthy.
Because we didn’t live up to the standard.
Rarely do we ask ourselves where these standards come from.
Rarely to we dig into the source of our expectations.
Are these really our own expectations?
Do we really have such high bars set for ourselves?
Sure, at the surface level, we might.
But what caused us to set such a high bar?
Often, it’s other people.
Perhaps even only one specific person.
Somebody somehow led us to think our self-worth was in our performance.
Through our career.
On the playing field.
With our hobby.
In our bank account.
We often mistakenly think that we’re only doing it for ourselves.
But, when we dig deeply, we realize that’s not the case.
We realize that if nobody else knew anything about our lives, we’d be living them much differently.
How many years, decades, and lifetimes have been wasted living for other people?
Others’ opinions might help steer your efforts.
But nobody else lives inside your head.
Nobody else feels what you feel.
Thinks what you think.
You are the one living your life.
You decide what you expect of yourself.
The only expectations that matter are your own.
You are worthy of a most excellent life.
A most excellent life according to you.
On your terms.
Because you are worthy.
You’ve got this.