Did you know that you’ll run into disagreements?
That’s a shocking revelation, I’m sure.
All kidding aside, disagreements can be unpleasant experiences.
One or more of the interested parties might get worked up.
Voices might raise.
Harsh words might be used.
We want to be right.
We want to win.
We might even want the other person or people to feel bad.
And we work hard to make it happen.
Even when we know we’re incorrect or we’re missing something.
We dig in our heels.
All because of a difference in opinion or perspective.
What started as a discussion has us feeling hot and alert.
As if we’re responding to a threat.
In some ways we are responding to a threat.
A threat to our values.
A threat to our identity.
A threat to our worldview.
In reality, all we’re doing is sharing ideas.
Sure, these ideas might conflict.
But is that a reason for hostility?
Perhaps values are shared with different ideas of how to honor them.
Perhaps values differ, but there are still common beliefs.
Perhaps there is no common ground.
Even in that kind of a situation, do we not all live on the same rock?
This small planet, hurtling through space, our existence a mere blip on the cosmic timeline?
What does arguing achieve?
How does it make anybody’s life any better?
Instead of arguing.
Instead of getting upset.
Instead of resorting to hostility.
What if you sought to clarify?
To see where there is agreement?
Find what common ground there might be?
You may still see things differently.
But you’ll have a better understanding of why.
You are worthy of the best life.
That life has no room for needless conflict.
All we have are one another.
Seek to understand.
You’ve got this.