We’ve all got stories.
Beliefs about ourselves we hold to be true.
Ideas of who we are and how we act, based on our pasts.
References for navigating each and every decision we make.
Saying that we do or do not do certain things, because that’s who we are.
Defaulting to – or ruling out – certain possibilities.
Such self-identities can be be productive toward creating a most excellent life.
Helping a friend because “I put others before myself”.
Setting up an automatic savings because “I live within my means.”
Going to the gym because “I value my ability to move with confidence.”
Eating well because “I prioritize how I feel over what I taste”.
But what about when our stories are counterproductive to our best lives?
Not applying to a job because “I never hear back from HR”.
Not asking a guy or girl out because “I’m not nearly confident enough”.
Not going to a happy hour because “I just can’t ever keep friends.”
“I always hurt those who I let get close to me.”
“I never get what I really want.”
“I don’t deserve to be happy.”
“I’m unworthy of love.”
Such stories keep us stagnant.
Stuck in patterns of fear.
Patterns rooted in past experiences that we let dictate our future.
Learning from the past is a worthy process.
When we turn these lessons into stories, however, we close ourselves off.
We close ourselves off from growth.
From living our best lives.
You are not your story.
You’re not what you’ve done.
You’re not what’s happened to you.
You’re more than any disappointment or experience.
Let your past inform, not define, your present and future.
The only story you have is that you are here, now.
The rest is up to you.
What stories are you telling yourself?
How might living according to these stories be holding you back?
Which of these stories are you ready to let go?
You are worthy of a most excellent story.
You can start writing it whenever you want.
You’ve got this.